2021.12.02 21:36 Inevitable_Pack_4631 I keep getting it wrong and disappointing my wife
This is my first Reddit post! I've been married for 7.5 years to a wonderful, incredibly intelligent woman. She spotted me first, and it took me about 10 years to realise we were good together, but we finally did and got married.
I have a bunch of problems. I am an only child of a single mum, and though she always tried to build.me up, her self esteem was rock bottom, and I think somewhere I may have picked that up too. Therefore I naturally assume I am basically rubbish. I have come to realise this is a type of ego just as bad as arrogance, maybe worse. I also am fairly self absorbed, and that makes me feel even worse, because I tend to notice behaviour linked to that after I've already done it.
Tonight is a great example of me messing up badly.
My wife is the prime breadwinner, and is sticking with a job she hates for us, as she should get a big redundancy in less than a year we hope. This job stresses her out constantly and means that it is critical I support her to the best of my abilities.
We both work from home though she has had to go to the office more lately, something she hates, because it's a 2 hour commute, and she has to be in a 6:45 train. She had to go today, and so I was at home...
I had a nagging feeling i was going to get something wrong, mostly from past experience but also some learned behaviour when in was a teen and my mum had a nervous breakdown.
So I did what I could to make the house nice, and asked her if she wanted me to pick her up from the station in the car or walk her home. We live 5 minutes walk from the station, and after 2 hours she normally likes to walk. She answered that it might not be worth driving. So I made the decision to walk.
Well, it was the wrong choice, and in retrospect I understand why...She said she was cold and tired.
The result was her crying and screaming at me all the way home. I can't even apologise because she hates it, she says it's just so that I can have her say "it's ok" rather than own my mistake. Of course, I did anyway.
This is just today's example. I always get something critical wrong.
She deserves so much better than this, and I really need some advice as to how to approach these situations and actually do the right thing.
Sorry it's such a long post.
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2021.12.02 21:36 Gin_2005 Need advice
I’m a grade 11 student, so I’m not sure if this would apply to this subreddit. Anyways, I am planning to apply to health science in OttawaU(or Carleton) and was wondering if 4U physics is required for this program. I’ve heard that 4U physics is very difficult, so I hope that it is not super necessary!
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2021.12.02 21:36 Meredman I use Amazon Music
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My friend pointed out that no one uses Amazon Music. Upon review in the google play store, it has 100million+ downloads vs Spotify's 2billion.
I am no hipster. I am no craven. But I'll be damned if knowing that it has only been downloaded 100million+ times makes me feel special.
I love Amazon Music, I have been using it since 2011 and I dont plan on stopping.
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